Gay son sex
“You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”
When you grow a parent, you understand to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can equip them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you have cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a pretty future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your head around this.
If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has come out as queer or lesbian, then this is for you.
I encourage you to sit down, relax, maybe get a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to tell you. My hope is to guide you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may begin to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll get to that. But at the bottom of it all, this is not about you. Most parents’ first mistake is to mak
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with identical gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the respond to their son’s strife is not to press him into the arms of a woman. In fact, such a action could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad do for his son? In a word: connect! I realize when saying that many dads might think, “I am associated to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t mean you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and understand. Proclamations of facts do tiny to move his heart. He wants words dripping with raw emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and narrate him how much you love him, how arrogant you are of him, and how you assume he has what i
Meaningful conversation: Professor’s research explores parent-gay son communications around sexual identity
Experiences of others help shape recommendations for parents, children
For many youth and young male lover males, talking with their parents or parental figures about sex and sexual identity can be uncomfortable. Broaching such sensitive topics effectively, though, can boost lines of communication and open doors for future conversations, express support, and contribute to deeper understandings for both parents and their gay male children.
J. Lloyd Allen, assistant professor in Wayne State University’s School of Social Perform, conducted a qualitative research focusing on parent-gay son communications regarding sexual self after coming out. Allen spoke with 19 self-identified gay or queer men between the ages of 19 and 30 about conversations with their mothers and fathers about their sexual identities. His sheet “The typology and content of parent-gay son contact about sexual identity: A qualitative content analysis” was published in the Journal of Gay & Female homosexual Social Services and provides recommendations to help instruction parents and childre
God Gave Me a Queer Son . . .
Editor’s Note: On a peaceful Saturday morning in early September I sat in my backyard, savoring the scene before me: the grass and trees and black-eyed Susans, all feeling different now — as the sunlight and scents took on an autumn mood. It reminded me of a lasting essay from years endorse, and that got me to conjuring a list of all-time personal favorites published in the magazine over the years. I decided to share them with you, a modern one each Saturday morning until the calendar reaches 2024. The summer 2004 edition devoted most of its feature section to the provocative topic of homosexuality. This essay, written 20 years ago, was the foundational piece that provided the impetus for exploring the subject further. —Kerry Temple ’74
Mark gazed out the small window of his dorm room. It was Saturday morning and the bitter frigid bleakness outside matched his mood. He may possess made a mistake going to school so far north and so far from home, but he had chosen this academy in northern Michigan because he loved the organic environment of the north country where he could ski, hike in the woods and enjoy the serenity of this sparsely populated place.
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