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“Have you watched Baby Reindeer?” I texted an actress friend of mine. “He's getting bad press for exposing his stalker,” she responded, referencing the series writer, creator and actor Richard Gadd and some ancillary press he’s gotten around the series, which is based on his own life. There’s a particularly bizarre media fixation on figuring out who the characters in the series’ real-life counterparts are. My friend, who hadn’t yet seen the display, continued: “I saw a producer on Instagram talking about how that chick will never be qualified to have a normal life.”
I did my finest to not be indifferent, but it bugged me a bit that this was the larger chatter around a show that I feel deserves far more critical thinking as a work of art rather than a media circus fixation. I believe this is the outcome that comes with something as blatantly and unapologetically transgressive as this exhibition becoming part of monoculture, which exists to flatten complex ideas so they are consumable by the largest amount of people possible. That, and the fact that many audiences today seek clear conclusions and thus pieces of media like Challengers and White Lotus, which look for to ask questions more
Netflix’s ‘Baby Reindeer’: A Shadowy, Haunting Story Bungles its Depiction of Queerness
But it does want us to believe — in reality it entirely depends upon us believing — that Donny, for one, experienced same-sex desire only after his abuse — longing it goes out of its way to depict as filthy and degrading. It does, too, long for us to believe that Donny failed to build any romantic connections with women or men after his abuse — until he met Teri (Nava Mau) on a transitioned dating site.
Gadd himself identifies as bisexual, which makes it all the more puzzling and frustrating that, again and again, the series takes absurd pains to present Donny as someone who is not at all like the kinds of queer folk who (shudder!) willingly hold sex with each other and (shock horror!) employ recreational drugs and (gasp!) watch porn.
Rest assured, linear audiences: Donny’s queer sexuality was something forced upon him — a evidence that his stoic father (Mark Lewis Jones) understands and underscores because, as he tearfully explains to his son, “I grew up in the Catholic Church.”
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Baby Reindeer: Barriers Men and Boys Face After Sexual Assault
Baby Reindeer, created by Richard Gadd, was nominated for 11 Emmys, and took home 6 including Outstanding Lead Actor In A Limited Or Anthology Series Or Movie – 2024.(2) The show is controversial for many reasons. In chatting about it as a team, some Love146 staff couldn’t conclusion it. Viewing it may not be beneficial for you; to say it’s heavy is an understatement. If you haven’t watched it, please don’t grab this article as an endorsement or recommendation to do so or not.
In reaching #1 on Netflix, it’s brought up a conversation that is often overlooked — one that acknowledges how especially tough it can be for men and boys to seek help. They are often told either by society or by individuals that their victimization is their own fault or that their experiences aren’t valid. These are barriers we must continue to break down not just in society; but also in our circles of family and friends. We need to better sustain all survivors including males to ensure that no one feels isolated in their journey of recovery.
For the many who’ve noticed or watched Baby Reindeer, we want to provide some framework to re
Baby Reindeer strikes a painful chord for gay and bi men, and I know why: grooming and rape are common
Richard Gadd’s critically acclaimed Netflix series Baby Reindeer has proved wildly popular since its release two weeks ago.It’s a harrowing, semi-autobiographical tale about a young bi-curious man who is stalked by an older girl. Much of the discussion around the show has focused on “Martha”, the fictional portrayal of Gadd’s real-life stalker. But Neonate Reindeer is also a story of how trauma can shape the display, of sexual violence and its far-reaching impact, and sexuality.
For two years, I worked on Baby Reindeer as the show’s Diverse consultant, reviewing scripts to feed back on how LGBTQ+ people and issues are represented, providing development on creating an inclusive set for cast and crew, and ultimately, acting as a resource to answer questions or concerns from anyone working on the show.
Since it aired, I’ve been inundated with messages from gay and bi men telling me how hard they set up it to watch. And I’m not surprised. Rarely has a show portrayed a male victim of sexual assault with such grit and realism. For many, they say it’s the series’ fourth episode that is mo
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