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Heat of the moment

Hi Michael,

When I came to D.C. for college and came out, I was romantic about finding true adore. I made gay friends at school and watched them hooking up all the time.

It seemed enjoy the opposite of what I wanted. I dreamed of meeting “Prince Charming” and living happily ever after. I thought I would put off sex until I met my special guy.

This went on for a while until I got too horny and impatient to hold putting off sex. The boyfriend wasn’t materializing so I went online and hooked up. Actually it was a lot of fun.

Soon I was hooking up as much as any of my friends were. I kept hoping I’d still find my prince. But over time most of my energy shifted to finding guys to have sex with.

Now I’m 34. I’ve been at this a long period and I realized the other day that I don’t like my life.

I haven’t been on a real date in years but I’m hooking up multiple times a week. I’ve been with almost everyone I see on the apps whom I find attractive (where the feeling was mutual). And yes, I’ve been with a lot whom I didn’t find attractive because I was horny.

I glance at myself and I think, yuk. I don’t like whom I’ve become.

I feel like I am addicted to hooking up.

Today’s post is an interview with the wonderful Silva Neves, psychotherapist and specialist in psychosexual and association therapy.

Silva is an advanced accredited gender, sexuality, and relationship diversities therapist. He has over a decade of experience working with members from many Queer communities, and has helped numerous guys overcome the psychological causes of erectile dysfunction (ED).

In this interview, Silva explains:

why same-sex attracted men can have one-of-a-kind experiences with erectile dysfunction
the link between our mental health and erections
how an understanding therapist can help get your sex life and ED help on track

We apply the term ‘gay man’ throughout this interview, but we touch on knowledge that could also be relevant for people who identify as men who have sex with men (MSM), and penis owners who have sex with other penis owners.

Mojo:Hi Silva, before we commence, can you clarify what ED is, and what causes it?

Silva: Sure. Erectile dysfunction is where you’re not able to find an erection, not proficient to keep an erection long enough to undergo sexually satisfied, or you’re not able to earn an erection that’s tough enough to have the sex you

Erections

Does my erect cock stare normal?

Outside of some type of true deformity, accident or even complication after circumcision, most guys erect cocks look normal. Normal is a relative designation and should be avoided. The real issues are, do you have a healthy cock and erections? Erectile dysfunction is a real and growing challenge, which we well mention in another Piece in the General Health section, but if you are able to obtain an erection, trust us, it looks normal.

Our friend Frank Cosmo, from Cosmopolitan magazine. (Shut up, we just read it for the articles) has some thoughts on the types of erections guys have.

The Pee Boner. This is a fake-out boner that really just happens when you really, really, really have to pee, and goes away right after, like stepping on a garden hose.

2. The Morning Boner. This greets you in the morning with a stiff hello, like a butler that can only pee and ejaculate. This boner is the Egg McMuffin of morning sex: The two go well together.

3. The Ghost Boner. This one comes along and leaves like the wind. There’s nothing happening around you to set it off, there’s no one to see it. It’s just there and gone favor an appa

Am I gay if I get an erection while watching gay porn?

Hi Filipe!

Thank you very much for writing in to us at Alterheros. You note that becoming aroused after mistakenly seeing gay porn has caused you to question your sexuality, despite the fact that you are attracted to and have been in cherish with girls. Your doubt is not uncommon among young people–most will interrogate their orientation at least once in their lives. We are so often preoccupied with labels. I would suggest that these labels are not as important as they may seem to most people. However, for some individuals, it is important to their identity to collective themselves with others who share common ideas or are in some way or another similar to themselves.

Let’s consider the label « gay »: though it may apply to the society as a whole, I believe you are intending the term to point out specifically male-male relationships. Though the definition may vary slightly for some, the term almost exclusively refers to men who explore sexual and/or emotional relationships with other males. In this case, the label does not seem to conform to your particular situation, but ultimately what you choose to label (or not la